You know you need to do it.
It has been sitting in the back of your mind for days.
Sometimes weeks.
You think about it while making tea.
While scrolling your phone.
While doing anything except starting.
You want it done. You know you will feel better once it is finished.
And still, nothing happens.
Until suddenly there is a deadline.
Or a consequence.
Or that sharp internal jolt of “oh no, I have left this too late”.
And somehow, that is the moment your brain switches on.
If this shows up in work projects, housework, emails, life admin, or sometimes studying, it is not laziness. And it is not that you do not care.
Waiting Until the Last Minute Is Not a Character Flaw
So many people I work with say the same thing.
“I only work properly when I am under pressure.”
“I hate that I do this every time.”
“I know what I need to do, I just cannot start.”
This can feel confusing and frustrating, especially when you genuinely want to be more organised or begin earlier.
For many people with ADHD, waiting until the last minute is not a choice. It is about how the brain responds to activation.
ADHD brains do not tend to respond to tasks based on importance alone. They respond to things that feel urgent, interesting, novel, or emotionally charged.
Until something feels real enough, the brain struggles to engage.
Why Deadlines Suddenly Make Everything Possible
Deadlines change the experience of a task.
Suddenly the noise drops.
Decisions feel clearer.
Focus sharpens.
Motivation appears almost out of nowhere.
Urgency creates a surge of stimulation, often through dopamine and adrenaline, and suddenly everything clicks into place.
This is why you can rush through an essay, a work task, or even cleaning the house and get it done in a short space of time when the pressure is on.
For a moment, it can feel like proof that you just needed the pressure.
But that focus does not come for free.
The Hidden Cost of Last Minute Focus
That burst of dopamine can push you through a task, but it often leaves something behind.
Once the task is finished, many people feel drained, irritable, flat, or emotionally wrung out.
The body has been running on stress hormones rather than steady energy.
And long before the deadline arrived, the task was already taking up space.
It lived quietly in the background of your mind.
Popping up while you tried to relax.
Creating low level tension for days or even weeks.
So although the task gets done quickly at the end, the mental load has often been there all along.
When Urgency Stops Working
Relying on urgency can feel like it works, until it does not.
There are plenty of moments where this approach becomes risky. Something genuinely urgent comes up. The task turns out to be more complex than expected. You run out of time. Illness or exhaustion hits. Or your energy simply is not there that day.
Because this system depends on pressure, there is very little room for flexibility.
What looks like a strategy is often a coping mechanism built around stress rather than support.
The Dopamine Drop Afterwards
Once the deadline passes and the stimulation drops, many people experience a kind of crash.
Focus disappears.
Motivation dips.
Mood can flatten.
This is not a failure or a lack of gratitude. It is the nervous system coming down after a surge.
Over time, repeating this cycle can contribute to burnout, self doubt, and a constant feeling of being on edge even when nothing is wrong.
Creating Gentler Activation
If a technique only works by pushing your nervous system into overdrive, it is worth asking what the long term cost might be.
Yes, urgency can unlock focus.
But it can also create stress, exhaustion, and a reliance on pressure to function.
For many people with ADHD, the goal is not to remove deadlines completely. It is to learn how to create gentler activation, ways of starting that do not depend on panic.
That is something I explore in my self guided ADHD courses, particularly around motivation, overwhelm, and emotional regulation. They are designed to offer practical tools you can return to when your brain needs support rather than pressure.
A Final Word on Self Compassion
If you have spent years telling yourself you are lazy, disorganised, or bad at adulting, this pattern can feel deeply personal.
But nothing is wrong with you.
Your brain is responding exactly as it was wired to respond.
With understanding, self compassion, and the right kind of support, it does not have to feel quite so exhausting every time a deadline looms.
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